We have all received an invitation before. To a birthday, a social, a ball or lunch. Invitations come in many ways. You might get a hand written one in the mail, an evite or an oral invite. With the holidays approaching you may have been invited to someone’s home or have invited people to your home. In Kathy Bertone’s book, “The Art of the Visit”, she gives us some tips on being the perfect host and guest.
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This morning, about to leave for church, I grabbed my good coat off a hanger and began to slip it on. Unfortunately, my sweater sleeves were too bulky to go into the sleeves of the coat. Frustrated, I hung it back up and grabbed the oversize fleece jacket that I usually wear when running. I knew that my sweater sleeves would fit, but I was very uncomfortable wearing such a casual jacket to church. Oh well, it couldn’t be helped.
One of the things I love most about Army life is the Army family. We need each other. The Army family is a support system. At the AUSA conference this year Tara Crooks, co-founder of Army Wife Network, said, “Military families are very diverse.” That is so true. We as individuals are unique. We have quirks, opinions, different likes and dislikes and we are a family. So, how do we build friendships? How do we find our place in the family?
The dictionary defines it as; “to join, link or fasten together; to establish communication between; to have as an accompanying feature.” My job is to help people connect with each other, no matter the distance that lies between them. If I was asked for my own word that defines connection, I’d pick “strength.” I think of the strength of the bond we have with those we love, and the strength of our conviction to prevent bad things from getting in the way of that bond like arguments, growing apart, and physical distance. Today we begin a journey of posts to renew the strength of all our connections.
Our Military life is a nomadic one. We move from place to place. We pack up. We unpack. We look for a place to live. We might buy, rent or take Government housing. Oh, the places and choices! Whether you are a first- timer or an old-timer it’s a different experience every time.
As Army Spouses we take care of a lot of stuff. The kids, housing, husbands uniforms, pets, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, Family Readiness Group (FRG), volunteering, mentoring and the list goes on. We give a lot of ourselves to better our family and our community. All the things we do is commendable. Often, we forget to take care of ourselves.
Whether you boohoo or whoop with joy when it’s back to school time it helps to be organized. What do you do with all those back to school clothes and school supplies? Do you eat on the go because of the after school activities? Are the mornings wrought with angst because book bags, homework and permission slips are misplaced or forgotten about? With a little organization school days can be smooth and hassle free.
Does the idea of hosting a party or event fill you with dread? Do you experience anxiety while planning and preparing? Preparing for a party can be stressful. As a hostess you want everything to be perfect and go smoothly. I have done my fair share of hosting.
To create and enjoy lasting friendships takes effort and skill. Add our nomadic Army lifestyle and the effect can be daunting. Some people make friends easily, but others making and keeping friends isn’t easy. Once, a good friend told me I was hard to get to know. I agree with her. I don’t open up easily and I have lots of insecurities that make me hesitate in friendship building. I have learned ways to meet people that are comfortable for me.
You don’t have to look very far to find research that supports that stress leads
to serious health problems on down the line – blocked arteries, heart attacks, strokes
and even mental health issues. Reality says that there is no way you can avoid stress,
so let’s manage it.