HGTV Girl in a Housing-Restricted World

As military spouses, we often find ourselves looking forward to the day we get to decorate our homes with no rules, restrictions, or repainting involved (or maybe that’s just me as an HGTV girl).

We dream of the day we won’t have to spackle the walls as we pray the housing inspector doesn’t ding us for going over our “allotted holes per wall.”

We fantasize about the day that no one can stop us from painting our living room wild colors such as “Dusty Grape” or “Sunset Orange.”

We relish the idea of a clutter-free garage because we finally have wall space for everything we want to hang!

We eagerly await the day when we can say this is our “Last House” and look forward to the big payoff from all the hours we spent watching our favorite HGTV shows in anticipation of the day we can finally

Tear down that wall and put up some shiplap!

Pull back the carpets and delightedly find wood floors!

Take out all of our amazing treasures from all over the world and find a spot for them!

Have outdoor living space that isn’t shared with six neighbors!

Go on a Beachfront Bargain Hunt that doesn’t involve a Motel 6 and a military discount!

I even have an idea (just in case any HGTV producers are reading this) for a show called Military Move-in Makeovers. I challenge any HGTV gurus to help military families makeover installation housing without breaking the rules!

Ask almost any military spouse and they’ll have a favorite HGTV show. Some of them, like myself, love Flea Market Flip. The treasure hunting through thrift stores and markets from all of our overseas and local stations is addictive (and someday, each of these finds will tell a story in my forever home). Other military spouses love Beach Front Bargain Hunt and, after all the landlocked locations some branches like to send us, who can blame them?

But the show the majority of my friends seem to watch is Fixer Upper. It’s hard to deny the charm of the show, and after relocating to Fort Hood this summer, I grabbed two of my milspouse sisters and headed off on the mere 47-minute drive to see what the fuss over Waco, the silos, and the Magnolia franchise was all about.

It’s a little known fact that military spouses can mobilize for a shopping excursion that rivals a special ops team on a mission, and my two team members were up for the challenge. A predicted 106-degree heatwave got us moving early in the morning.

I have to admit that, at this point, I’m less of a fan of the “farmhouse” motif than my two friends. I was actually on the trip for a possible “Chip sighting” and one of the famous cupcakes from the Magnolia Bakery. I think the appeal Chip has for me is that his answer is always, “Whatever you want to do, babe” and the answer I get from my husband is more like, “Housing won’t let us do that, babe.” As an HGTV girl, I couldn't wait to explore the home of Fixer Upper.

As we approached the two silos in historic downtown Waco, it was hard to not get a little excited at being there. We were greeted by free downtown trolleys and tour guides, but we were trying to beat the heat so we headed right into the Marketplace.

The place was the mothership for all things “fixer upper.” Farmhouse signs, beautiful displays, and of course, lots of interesting pieces to look at or buy. As a die hard flea market shopper, I paid my respects to the beautiful, incredibly perfect decorations, and I went over to the bakery to score some “Shiplap Cupcakes” for my military mamas still on a mission.

After happily purchasing coffee and enough sugar to power the silos (with a much appreciated 10% military discount), I met my friends under a shady tree in the outdoor café. As we sat down and talked about where they were going to place their new items in their “housing-restricted world,” I became overwhelmed with a sense of belonging to this incredible nomadic tribe of HGTV watchers who roll up their sleeves with each housing assignment and make it work.

Magnolia Silos is a Mecca for an HGTV girl like me.

Although we all admitted that we often catalogue what we see on these shows for “later” with every passing episode, I couldn’t help but marvel at how we manage to make the now a place to call home. White walls adorn our pictures and mementos and provide the backdrop on which we must be creative every two years.

I love going into my neighbor’s house, and even though we share the same floor plan, square footage, and flooring, she managed to make her small boxy living room into something out of Southern Living. Seriously… the awkward, white-walled house was so transformed by her bold turquoise and red color scheme and creative decorating, it would make anyone “love it instead of list it.”

Part of our mission as military spouses is to make our houses into homes. We do this not with decorators and renovation teams, but with love and the creativity that allows us to use the same pieces over and over again, but in different ways. We do this with the knowledge that our homes represent more than just beautiful things and perfect symmetry.

They represent sacrifice, solidarity, and simply making the most of what we’re given.

As I sat and reminisced about some pretty tough homes to fill with some pretty tough military spouses, we raised our “shiplap” cupcakes to HGTV and all the inspiration they give to us now and in our forever homes, wherever and whenever they may appear!

A big thanks to Mandy and Dagmar who have helped me decorate my white walls for the past 15 years!

Looking for some decorating ideas? Check out Furnishing a Military Household and Personalize Your On-Base Housing or Rental with These Easy Decorating Ideas.

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Kathleen Palmer

Kathleen Palmer

Kathleen is an educator and project seeker from Texas. In her 25 years as an Army wife, Kathleen has taught and coached in six different states and Germany. Kathleen has a big heart for both Army families and soldiers having served as a Soldier for Life counselor in both Germany and Korea. Her favorite part of Army life is her acquired community of battle buddies! Kathleen loves words (both speaking and writing them) and has contributed to AWN, NMFA, The Fort Hood Sentinel, The Army Spouse Handbook, Inside Abu Ghraib, Memoirs of Two US Military Intelligence Officers, and The Army War College at Carlisle. Her favorite writing piece about being an Army wife is “The Lady in the Grey Suit” that was published in 2015 in Proud to Be: Writing by American Warriors (Vol.3). You can find her on Instagram, Facebook, or on her website, https://www.lifeismessylovebig.com Just like Kathleen, the site is a WORK in Progress!

3 thoughts on “HGTV Girl in a Housing-Restricted World

  • August 8, 2018 at 8:53 am
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    This is great, Kathy. I have watched Teresa make each of their residences a home, through the years. It is an art. I thank you and Palmer for your years of service to our country.

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  • August 8, 2018 at 12:10 pm
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    Another fantastic article that gets to the roots of our resiliency and ability to work magic as move from home to home. Thank you Kathy!

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  • August 9, 2018 at 11:39 am
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    You might remember me and my family. We lived on Glenway for over 20 years. Kim, Chris
    And Tracey were our children. Enjoyed your article
    Very much. We were in the Air Force for 4 years so
    I can relate. Good luck to you and keep writing.

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